“A study on masculinity and aggression from the University of South Florida found that innocuous – yet feminine – tasks could produce profound anxiety in men. As part of the study, a group of men were asked to perform a stereotypically feminine act – braiding hair in this case - while a control group braided rope. Following the act, the men were given the option to either solve a puzzle or punch a heavy bag. Not surprisingly, the men who performed the task that threatened their masculinity were far more likely to punch the bag; again, violence serving as a way to reestablish their masculine identity. A follow-up had both groups punch the bag after braiding either hair or rope; the men who braided the hair punched the bag much harder. A third experiment, all the participants braided hair, but were split into two groups: those who got to punch the bag afterwards and those who didn’t. The men who were prevented from punching the bag started to show acute signs of anxiety and distress from not being able to reconfirm their masculinity.”
— Doctor Nerdlove, "When Masculinity Fails Men" (via aldoushuxley)
(Source: sepiacircus, via brodieroset)
11:07 am • 16 November 2013
My ability to deal with setbacks and things that upset me has really improved in the last few weeks. I think it’s partly down to the fact that I have wonderful friends and I’ve realised that it’s okay to turn to them if I need help, and partly improvement in myself, being nicer to myself and actually letting myself feel things rather than try and ignore them and carry on. Yesterday was a bad day but I dealt with it, let myself be sad and angry for a while, and then moved on. A few weeks ago it would have meant days of crying, hating myself, and pushing people away but now I am able to deal with it.
6:56 pm • 14 November 2013
“Racism isn’t born, folks. It’s taught. I have a 2-year-old son. Know what he hates? Naps. End of list.”
— Denis Leary, 1992 (via deathwishconfession)
(Source: thedaddycomplex, via onefatcow)
6:43 pm • 14 November 2013
It came! And it’s beautiful.
5:56 pm • 14 November 2013
My best friend is hundreds of miles away and hasn’t spoken to me in months except to send me one letter, and I really fucking miss him.
10:07 pm • 13 November 2013
Here are some wintry animals reminding you to have a nice day and please take care of yourself because you are lovely!
7:19 pm • 13 November 2013
“if you show
someone the sun in your bones
and they reject you
you must remember,
they hurt themselves this very same way.”
— unable, nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)
6:54 pm • 13 November 2013
The best view in the world
10:39 pm • 12 November 2013